Ten years ago, while attending an Anthony Robbins event, I heard him say that the quality of life is lived in proportion to the quality of your questions.
This idea captivated me, and I began a journey of asking better questions every day, hoping to achieve more and help others. But over time, as I practiced essence forgiveness, my perspective shifted, and I started to see things differently.
Who determines the quality of our questions? Who is grading our success based on those questions?
Essence began to reveal the limitations of my thinking. He pointed out that my current view of life, the “positionality,” is incredibly narrow—a pixel in the vast landscape of life. And when that pixel tells a story of the past, it misperceives, misinterprets, and ultimately misunderstands everything.
Through this practice of forgiveness, I've come to see how these misperceptions create suffering. Essence introduced me to the idea that positionalities are the root of all suffering. It’s when we impose our will—our desires, our expectations—on others that we experience this suffering.
Will is a powerful force.
It drives us to get up in the morning, to do the hard things, to exceed our expectations. But will, by its very nature, is a misdirect. It pulls us away from the nothing-nobody state, a state where we let go of defined realities. Will creates a reality, a framework within which we act and live, but it is still limited by the confines of our positionalities.
Essence teaches me to forgive both the positionality telling the story and the one that created the story. In doing so, we transcend the frequencies of both, gaining access to a broader view, which is filled with God’s Grace and Unconditional Love.
This forgiveness practice rewrites our entire being. Our central nervous system, our biology, begins to align with higher states of vibrational frequency as we forgive. We access a transcendence that allows us to move beyond the stories that define us. And in doing so, we let go of the desire to impose our will on others, to make them happy or healthy based on our perspective, so we can be happy or content.
True healing, both for ourselves and others, comes not from imposing our will but from dissolving it.
Essence has guided me to the awareness that we can only love and heal others to the extent that we love and heal ourselves. Every story we tell, every judgment, comparison, or expectation is an opportunity to forgive and to raise our own frequency.
This journey of transcendence is not easy.
It requires constant practice, constant forgiveness.
On the other side of every act of forgiveness is grace, a peace that transcends all discord. When we let go of will, when we forgive, we open ourselves to a new frequency range, one that is no longer bound by the limitations of our positionalities.
This is where true healing happens, both for ourselves and the world around us.
Transcending Will